A wife watches a cheesy, action movie with her husband.
A husband goes on a walk with his wife at the end of a busy day.
And on and on. What do all of these have in common? They are examples of showing love by enjoying something that another person loves. Oh, the sister, the wife, and the husband may very well enjoy Barbies, actions movies, and walks, but in these instances, they are playing, watching, and walking purely to show love.
What the other person values, they will value, because that is loving as they want to be loved.
This is not an easy skill to learn. Many a child, and even adult, have said, “I don’t care about that. I don’t want to do it.” And that may be true. People we love have interests that we don’t have. But nothing shows love to another like spending time doing what the other wants to do.
It is a skill long lost.
It is a passion that needs to be revived.
At first, it is discipline.
In the long run, it is an act of love.
How can you love what someone else loves today to show them you care?
Your joyful presence will say more than many words.
I used to have this truth meter and if I was speaking with someone and I heard them say something I disagreed with biblically, I would pounce. Essentially, if I couldn’t change their mind with a quick, slightly sharp response, it was go time for a theological debate.
There were times that I shamed the name of Christ in this and lost several friends this way.
Now, when faced with theological error, I have a couple of questions I ask myself. I think when should I address this topic and how should I address this topic? Not every biblical disagreement has to be addressed at the moment. So I encourage you to ask these questions:
Is their biblical error causing them harm in their day to day life?
If it is, then address it immediately. For instance, if I’m sitting at the coffee shop and someone tells me that they live in constant fear because they are afraid that God is going to take their salvation from them and send them to hell. I think that is pretty important as their misunderstanding of the secure work of Jesus Christ is causing them day to day anguish.
The next question is how to address it.
Typically I ask folks why they feel the way they do, and in this case, I would ask them what scriptures have informed their opinion? When they tell me, and this kicker, I ask them if it is okay if I gave them a few other scriptures to consider. Then we can have a peaceful exchange about something in which we disagree. But not every theological issue needs to be addressed at the moment. Typically issues like the people’s view of the end times, whether King Saul was saved, how Samson tied 100 fox tails together, and a host of other topics, really can wait.
We should always humbly ask if we should contribute our view on issues before engaging. This is an act of love. The overarching principle that we need to consider is this:
Does their supposed theological error lead them to sin or to despair?
If it does, then we should gently walk in those discussions remembering that we both can’t be right but we both can be wrong. God and His scriptures alone is true.